How many times, my dears brides, you found yourself at the altar with a groom who didn't know the rules well wedding etiquette?
So here are some useful tips that you can give to your groom for the “fateful day of yes”!
Let's start with some pills about the Wedding dress code:
Lesson number 1: Choosing the dress
The tight
The tight It is a very elegant dress, not suitable for everyone and above all not suitable for all ceremonies.
It is suitable if the marriage It takes place in the morning and no later than six o'clock.
Why is it not suitable for an evening wedding?
Because beyond these hours, the tight it is out of place and "bulky", you have to wear the tailcoat.
Attention!! for particularly formal ceremonies the etiquette provides that, if the groom is in tight, even guests, parents and witnesses, must wear it.
The rules to follow to wear a morning suit well:
-The dress must be made of wool, just like the original
-The single-button jacket should be in a solid shade of gray (London, charcoal), and should be worn over a light gray five-button waistcoat.
-The shirt: necessarily white with a stiff collar and jeweled cufflinks on the cuffs.
-Never pair a bow tie with a morning suit: the silk plastron adds a touch of style.
-The shoes should be opaque, lace-up, and without stitching. The result will be truly elegant.
-Never wear gloves or a cylinder: these accessories must be carried by hand.
Alternatively it groom could choose the half tight or, better yet, the very simple three-piece dark suit tailored, in midnight blue or anthracite grey, suitable for all ceremonies and always elegant in any context.
Not to forget that the wedding dresses they must be matched in the best possible way, therefore it is strongly advised against the bride wearing a short dress if the groom is in a morning suit!!
The tuxedo
The tuxedo It has always been a symbol of elegance suitable for many situations such as gala evenings or at the casino and theatrical performances that only start after 6pm... but be careful: Never wear a tuxedo to a wedding!
This type of dress is in fact not suitable for wedding ceremonyTradition has it that it was created in London in 1865, as a stand-alone item—a simple jacket—to protect clothes from the smell of smoke. Once again, the advice is to do your research on what you plan to wear… otherwise, you risk making a mistake!
Lesson number 2: Accessories.
Have you chosen bold colors or an eccentric theme for your big day?
And let's go for the eccentric theme… but my advice is not to force your future husbands wearing embarrassing ties, perhaps with large polka dots or in violent colors, sometimes the obstinacy/combination turns out to be a boomerang!
The same rule applies to pocket squares, when the groom prefers them to the boutonniere (the classic boutonniere). Cufflinks, if the groom chooses to wear them, should also be clean, linear, and elegant. In this regard, please remember that only precious materials are permitted: white, yellow, or rose gold, as long as it's gold.
As always, sobriety is the best formula for elegance.
What to absolutely avoid on your wedding day
Buttons… Attention!!
The buttonholes have they always been a quid? What should a buttonhole look like? How should you wear it? I love a simple buttonhole, a single, clean flower. My advice, however, is to avoid using too large buttonholes, as they could end up being a boutonniere! Using a single flower, which can be combined with the bridal bouquet, will be pinned to the suit jacket with a small pin.
Haute couture dresses have, on the reverse of the jacket, in correspondence with the buttonhole in the front part, a thread loop to secure the stem of the flower.
A curiosity: it is said that Prince Albert, at Queen Victoria's wedding, created a small hole in the lapel of his jacket, to insert a flower taken from the bridal bouquetFrom that day on, every jacket was made with this buttonhole so that a flower could be inserted…
Is it true? Is it a legend? We like to believe that this romantic story is true! If your groom If you have purchased a ready-made dress, you will simply need to ask them to open the buttonhole and sew the thread loop.
Who wears the buttonhole? The groom, the witnesses and the fathers!
Technology at the altar… Never!
We are in the age of technology and too often we see spouses using their phones at the altar during the bride's wait…Wrong, absolutely. Let's face it: it's certainly not an elegant gesture, much less seeing the groom furtively checking his phone, thinking he can't be seen...
The bride's wait should be savored minute by minute, but we recommend that brides not overdo it by delaying their entrance!!! And then, let's think about it: how would the poor photographer do his job properly? You'd run the risk of having your head bowed in every photo!
Spot tanning… to be avoided!
For both winter and summer spouses: let's play the photomodel game, that is, escape from the sun a month before of marriageA ski trip in the Easter sun or a weekend on a sailing boat could leave a visible mark on your face.
The miracles of makeup might help, but why subject yourself to this torture? So, spring skiing and summer weekends are welcome, always equipped with a hat and full-body sunscreen. This aspect, too, when you look at the photos, might make you smile later.
Sudden look changes… to be avoided!
Your hair and beard should definitely be in order on the big day, but don't let an overzealous barber or the beautician your mother sent you influence you.
So, avoid drastic shaving, excessively thinned eyebrows, especially if you don't like it, and any drastic changes to your look.
In short, may your bride recognize you at the altar!
Finally, remember that every ceremony is perfect if the bride and groom experience the big day peacefully...so...wear a beautiful smile that day, on your face, in your mind and in your heart!
Good wedding day!
